A Letter to Our Family & Friends

November 1, 2016

Dear Family & Friends,

Words cannot express our love and appreciation for you all.  Your prayers, thoughts, good vibes, whatever it may be, we felt so much support from each and every one of you.

Going through In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) and a Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET) is very hard physically and emotionally.  It is so helpful having a support team.  Whether you are family, friends, or an acquaintance, you are a part of our team.  We could not do this alone, and you are a huge part of our life and story.

This morning I went in for the HCG blood draw, to find out if I was pregnant or not.  The nurse told me that they would call me with the results in the afternoon.

Sadly, they called and told me that the test came back negative.

We have been full of frustration, confusion, anger, and devastation.  I haven’t been able to talk much, but have been able to cry and scream.  I know as the days go on things will get easier,  but it will take some time.

As of now, we don’t know when we will continue with another round.  We will be meeting with Dr. Foulk (our fertility specialist) this coming month on November 21st; we hope to learn more about what issues may have caused the FET to be unsuccessful and to learn what steps lie ahead.

Although this isn’t the result we were hoping and praying for, we believe it’s all in the Lord’s plan and timing…and we choose to accept that.

My dad shared a scripture with me that was perfect for the timing and situation today.  “Wait on the Lord: be of good courage and he shall strengthen thine heart; wait, I say, on the Lord.” (Psalms 27:14)

Thank you again for being there for us.  We are so grateful for all of your love and support.

Ali and Scott

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    Catherine Rawlings
    November 1, 2016 at 3:06 am

    Oh Ali, I can't imagine what you must be going through. Even though you are so sad and heartbroken, you still have such a positive attitude and such strong faith! I admire you so much. I am praying for you and will be fasting for you again this Sunday (we fasted for you last month!) Hang in there girl! Love you!!

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    November 1, 2016 at 3:37 am

    I haven't experienced this loss or this heartache, but I would say just be gentle with yourself. There's no right or wrong way to feel–just feel what you feel and give yourself time. What a difficult journey you must be on.

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